It’s Supposed To Be Fun!
November 27th, 2006 by Sonja

What on earth have we come to? This was one of the headlines in my new-fangled personalized Google page today … “Man kills friend over $20 football bet.” So I read the story. You can too, if you click on that link. In fact, you ought to. Or maybe you ought not to. It’s depressing. Two guys made a bet on the Carolina-Clemson game on Saturday. Then they sat around drinking beer and watching the game. Then they had an argument and the guy that won the bet got his hunting rifle and killed his friend.

It’s $20 dollars folks. Whether the friend paid up or not, this is not life or death. It was supposed to be fun. Watching football together. Laughing. Eating (I’d bet … probably Doritos or something nasty). Making fun of each other’s team.

It’s all fun and games until someone gets an eye poked out.

… or ends up dead.

Really … what have we come down to? Why is it that in our culture everyone is so determined to win, we end up shooting our friends in order to win, really win, a $20 bet. Is it really worth it? What makes Playstations and bets and bits of plastic so much more important than people? How is it that we have so lost our center? When did that happen? I bet a lot of people read this and think, “Well, I’d never take a gun and shoot anyone.” Yeah … but how many times have you used words instead to grind your opponent into the dust? We all do that … and then we laugh and everyone laughs with us. Hell … even our opponent laughs, because it’s all in good fun. Right? Right? Everyone is doing it, so it must be okay.

Well … just think about it next time because words can do as much damage as a gun. And just because everyone laughs doesn’t mean they don’t hurt too. There has to be some point at which we stop this cycle of violence. When we declare that people are more important than toys and guns and machines. When we begin to recognize all the weapons is when we’ll begin to understand how to move forward. Then we’ll learn how to really have fun.

3 Responses  
  • Israel writes:
    November 28th, 20067:38 amat

    here here! even carolina and clemson fans should listen up to this post! studity. pure stupidity

  • Doug Jones writes:
    November 28th, 200611:34 amat

    I like the question, “how have we lost our center.” That is it – that is the right question to explore. We have come to think that the epidermis and the tangible – is all there is. It is western materialism at it’s finest on display in this shocking example. We have moved from the center to the circumfirence… we live – well skim at the surface and fail to get to the center of our being were we account from soul and spirit.


  • kate writes:
    December 1st, 20064:18 pmat

    I don’t think it was about money or the bet at all. It was about respect. About entitlement. That’s what our culture is breeding us (especially men, when it comes to respect) to hold dear above all else. You don’t respect me? I will eliminate you. Because I care about myself. Not you. The irony of the fact that the other person might be thinking the same is ignored, or not realized.
    I have seen a change in the tone of advertisements lately. It’s not, “buy our product! It’s awesome!” It’s, “Buy our product! Because YOU DESERVE IT. You work a long, hard day. You deal with lots of crappy people. People are crappy, aren’t they? But not YOU. You are SPECIAL. You deserve special things. Like our special thing!”
    I think living (and working) in this area is getting to me.

»  Substance:WordPress   »  Style:Ahren Ahimsa